In the Dark

Written by Sarah DeWitt on the Fourth Sunday of Lent

“To be human is to live by sunlight and moonlight, with anxiety and delight, admitting limits and transcending them, falling down and rising up. To want a life with only half of these things in it is to want half a life, shutting the other half away where it will not interfere with one’s bright fantasies of the way things ought to be.”
– Barbara Brown Taylor, Learning to Walk in the Dark

unnamedIn the past several weeks I have been sitting with this notion of darkness and what it means and what its purpose may be. It seems perhaps that my timing for this reflection is odd as we embrace the longer, lighter days of spring and as I prepare to welcome into the world what is sure to be the brightest light of my life, my child. But daylight that lasts until ten in the evening does not exist without the deep black of the night sky. And the beautiful joy of a new life does not eradicate our own mortality – rather perhaps it even reminds us how fragile life is.

We are so focused on the movement from darkness to light, as we assume that this is the proper direction in which to go. As if the darkness is a weakness to be overcome. As if darkness is a physical, emotional or spiritual state from which to retreat, recoil and recover.

Some pieces of our lives will take place in what feels like total darkness. The unknown calling that we try to name. The diagnosis of a terrible tumor. The loss of a meaningful faith community. The death of a small child. The void when we cannot hear God speaking.

I am learning what it means to sit inside those dark moments without attempting to flee, allowing my eyes to adjust enough to identify new graces that flow exactly through the darkness. I was recently reminded that Christ was laid in a tomb, a cave with the entrance sealed. Resurrection itself began in the dark.

Darkness is not the place or state in which God is absent. Instead it seems that as we come to know and embrace the dark, God may begin the most profound transformations within us.

Questions for Reflection:
Where is God in the dark?
What transformation awaits you there?

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unnamed (1) Sarah DeWitt
Sarah has been part of St. Mary’s since 2009. She manages the Ann Arbor Farmers Market. Sarah and her husband Steve are expecting their first child in April.
Email: sardwtt@gmail.com

“I Blew it Off”

Written by Sarah Paquet on Tuesday of the Third Week of Lent

A Lenten riddle: what is by your side night and day, always wanting to help you out, connecting you to a world you’ve never seen and ready with answers to any question?

I wish I could say my answer is ‘God,’ but unfortunately in my case, the answer is ‘my phone.’

Untitled5We’re all familiar with the way technology has become a concrete part of our lives, and whether we find it sinister or benevolent is really up to us, I suppose. I know that in my case, my phone is my number one tool for distraction and procrastination. If I’m bored in class, I turn to it without hesitation. When I don’t want to finish an assignment, I check Facebook. Lately I’ll spend a few minutes checking my phone when I park my car just because I don’t want to walk out into the cold.

What complicates my relationship with my phone is the people it connects me to. Taking Buzzfeed quizzes at my convenience is one thing, but responding to every single email and text can be a little exhausting. So, I tend to filter what I respond to, responding quickly to things I deem “important” and slowly (if at all) to things I don’t value. Yes, technology connects us, but it also makes it a lot easier to blow things off than if contact were made face-to-face.

I’ve spent some time away from my phone this Lent. The phone-free world offers a few uncomfortable things: people I find a bit difficult, classes I find a little boring, and silences that would otherwise be filled by thumbs clicking away. The interesting thing is not these daily challenges, which certainly everyone experiences, but what we choose to do with them. Uncomfortable situations don’t go away when we avoid them, and it turns out confronting them is a significantly richer experience. Further, confronting them often forces us to act – a boring class isn’t so boring if you participate, and silence leaves space for attempts at meaningful conversation.

It turns out life is more interesting when you’re paying attention.

Questions for Reflection and Suggestion for Prayer:
Consider your own relationship with technology. Does it distract you? Do you feel like it better connects you to the world?
The next time your phone or computer requests your attention, see what happens if you ignore it.
The Punch Brothers have a lot of interesting things to say about the role technology plays in our lives on their recent album The Phosphorescent Blues. This song is a good starting place:

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UntitledSarah Paquet
Sarah is a 1st year master’s student in the choral conducting program at Yale University. She graduated from the University of Michigan in 2012 and spent the following year serving as a Peer Minister at St. Mary Student Parish.
Email: slpaquet@gmail.com

Joy in the Desert

Written by Sharon Diotte on Monday of the Third Week of Lent

We focus a lot on the suffering of Lenten sacrifice, but this season also offers special gifts of joy. The benefits of giving up something that does not serve your highest good are boundless.

Some years ago, when living on Easter Island, I became addicted to cigarettes. Everyone around me smoked, all day long. I was unable to kick the habit while I was in that environment, but when I walked the tarmac and climbed the stairs into the plane that would carry me back to the US where no one in my social circle smoked, I was filled with a delirious glee in knowing that I no longer needed to feel controlled by the sickening addiction. A great weight was lifted. I felt light and buoyant. Of course there were endless benefits to being freed from the addiction.

Untitled123Each Lent, Jesus asks me to follow him into the desert of my own vision quest, inviting me to give up something that does not serve my highest good. Sometimes it is a addictive habit that is stagnating me – worry, jealousy, doubt, insecurity, fear, pride; there are many. Sometimes I need to give up eating sugar or white flour because those things are sapping my physical strength. It’s hard to resist addictions all by myself. But the beauty of Lent is that I am not alone. Jesus sits here with me in the desert.

My St Mary’s family is also here with me. I am comforted and inspired by so many of you who share your experience with me through this Lenten blog. In this loving space, we travel the Lenten journey together, learning from each other. Here, the work of freeing myself from my addictions becomes joyous. I feel light and buoyant.

I am blessed to be a member of this spiritual family.

Questions for Reflection:
In what ways do you feel our spiritual family supporting your Lenten experience?
Is there someone among us that needs your personal support? What might that look like?

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Sharon DSharon Diotte
Sharon is a retired parishioner at St. Mary Student Parish.
Contact: sharondiotte@hotmail.com

Taking the Polar Express to Alternative Spring Break

Written by Omar Mahmood on Tuesday of the First Week of Lent

There is a train called the Polar Express that only those who believe in Santa can see or hear or ride. Chris Van Allsburg tells in his book of little Billy, who boards that train to the North Pole.

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When he finally meets Santa, Billy wants nothing fancy. So Santa gives him a sliver bell from his sleigh. Billy is honored, but ends up losing it as it slips out of his ripped pocket. After so many misadventures, Billy makes it home for Christmas morning. He is surprised to find the bell under his Christmas tree. When he rings it, his parents hear nothing. Only Billy and his little sister can hear the tinkling of the bell. Only those who believe, only those who listen, can hear it. By the end of Billy’s long life, he has still held onto his faith. His friends and his sister no longer can hear the bell. But he believes, and so he can hear it tinkle still.

I have been honored in the past few months to have been welcomed into the folds of St. Mary, no less as a Muslim student on campus. The climate here in Ann Arbor, at least among students, is overwhelmingly rebellious, disdainful of traditional institutions like religion. And yet here we strive for God. In everyone there is a holy spirit, the very breath of God, and we all breathe it.

As we prepare for ASB, I remind myself and my friends that we must listen too to those whom we help. They are helping us too, maybe more than we can ever help them. I have spent some time working with eye patients in impoverished parts of the world, with Unite for Sight. Their stories move me still, and remind me that I am nothing before God, and they break my heart in the best of ways. I share here one conversation with a lady in Honduras, that I wrote about in a blog I kept there:

I sat down with a thin woman of a smaller frame. She was 47, but I would have guessed her to be at least 60. She had never been to school. I felt that at some time long ago she must have been pretty. Her smile was soft, but gave way to a glint of silver on her right canine, as much of the women here kept a casing of sorts for dental fashion.

Her boyfriend had left her some years ago. I asked about her house. She explained that she had none, and that she would get by renting rooms day by day if she could. Her water came from the river. She washed clothes in that river, she said. I asked her what she had to eat yesterday. “Nothing,” she said in a soft tone that was blunt in its own way. I would have liked to think she was exaggerating, but she said it over and over again, softer each time. “Somos pobres.”

I could muster nothing but “Que Dios le ayude”.

To know our weakness is to know God’s greatness. In those moments of knowledge, of heartbreak, Billy’s bell rings still.

Questions for Reflection:
If you were in The Polar Express, would the bell still ring for you?
Do you ever feel that your religious identity is in conflict with the campus culture?  What is your response?

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Syed Omar Mahmood
Omar is an alumnus of Detroit Country Day School. He wishes he lived two hundred years ago, although a log cabin in God’s Country does have its merits.  He is a junior studying Comparative Literature & Evolutionary Anthropology.
Email: syedom@umich.edu

Journey with Jesus

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Saturday, March 14 2015
Click here to sign up

Journey with Jesus is a self directed experiential retreat through the life, ministry, sentencing and death of Jesus. As we prepare for the holiest of weeks, take the time to engage deeply in prayer and reflection.

Journey with Jesus is composed of 10 interactive stations throughout the parish building. All participants will be given a reflection booklet to guide them through a hands-on experience of prayer which engages all of the senses.

Participants will begin at 10:00 AM in the church and conclude the prayer experience with a Lenten lunch and small group discussion by 1:00 PM.

Due to the nature of this prayer experience, spaces are limited to the first 100 parishioners. There is likely to be a waiting list, so if you realize you are no longer able to participate, please let Kelly Dunlop know ASAP to ensure maximum participation.

Flint Family Service Trip

Sunday, July 12 – Wednesday, July 15, 2015

A group of families from St. Mary Student Parish will travel to St. John Vianney Parish in Flint, Michigan to work on a variety of community projects appropriate for folks of all ages. Learn, work, pray, reflect and relax with other families from our parish community.

Work sites may include St. Luke’s NEW Life Center, North End Soup kitchen, Boys and Girls Club, Shelter of Flint, Carriage Town Mission and Habitat for Humanity. Children as young as 5 have participated in the past. Please consider joining us for a fun week of making a difference!

Application materials can be picked up in the St. Mary office. Application Deadline is March 16th, 2015.

For more information, contact Lisa Hirsch or Tom McDonough 734.741.1235 mcdfam5@sbcglobal.net.

The Rotating Overnight Shelter is Back!

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If you are looking for a chance to volunteer your time, consider signing up for a shift with the Rotating Shelter February 16 – February 23. Sign up to join the hospitality team at the beginning of the night, or for an overnight shift.

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We are also accepting food and snack donations! Please contact Lisa Hirsch or Rachel Conner.

Volunteer for a Year of Service in South Africa!

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WHAT Open Arms provides housing, education, and love for 57 children in the poorest province of South Africa.

WHO We need you! Open Arms is now recruiting Michigan students for a full-year commitment starting July 2015 to teach in the home school, organize children’s activities, and assist the directors with management.

WHEN Join us for an info session Thursday, Feb 26th at 7 PM in Donnelly Hall as part of the Gabriel Richard Lecture Series.

APPLY NOW Email Open Arms or visit our Long Term Service page for more info. The deadline to apply is Monday, Feb 23. Interviews for July 2015 positions will be scheduled the week of Feb 23 in Ann Arbor.

Blood Drive – Feb 1st

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Put the power of faith into action and help save a life!

SMSP will be hosting a Red Cross Blood Drive this Sunday, February 1st from 9:00 AM – 2:45 PM in Newman Hall. The need for blood is especially critical because of decreased donations due to the cold and inclement weather.

Walk-ins are welcome, or go online today to redcrossblood.org and enter our sponsor code goblue to schedule your appointment today!

Join an SCC and Meet New People!

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Last year, as a freshman, the University of Michigan quickly became by far the largest stage I had ever been on and the fact that I didn’t know a lot of people made it a little scary. I was excited to get to know people at school and quickly learned that the best way to do so was to get involved in groups of people with similar interests. Once I found St. Mary’s I began searching for specific ways to grow in my faith while continuing to make friendships and get to know my peers. Quickly it became apparent that I needed to join an SCC. I joined the Undergraduate Men’s SCC and got to know some really great guys. Aside from getting a head start on the weekly readings each Wednesday night, we were able to talk openly about our faith lives. Every week it was a time that I could go and know that I was in a safe place with people who respected how I felt and accepted everything I was saying. I have had a great experience with SCC’s and know it will continue in the future.

Jon Perry is a sophomore in the College of Literature, Sciences and the Arts at the University of Michigan.

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